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New York Times Bestseller * From the "best advice columnist of her generation" ( Esquire ) comes a hilarious, frank, and witty collection of all-new responses, plus a few greatest hits from the beloved "Ask Polly" column in New York magazine's The Cut.
Should you quit your day job to follow your dreams? How do you rein in an overbearing mother? Will you ever stop dating wishy-washy, noncommittal guys? Should you put off having a baby for your career?
Heather Havrilesky is here to guide you through the "what if's" and "I don't knows" of modern life with the signature wisdom and tough love her readers have come to expect. Whether she's responding to cheaters or loners, lovers or haters, the anxious or the down-and-out, Havrilesky writes with equal parts grace, humor, and compassion to remind you that even in your darkest moments you're not alone.
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Reseña de Publisher's Weekly
Havrilesky (Disaster Preparedness), the writer of New York magazine's popular "Ask Polly" column, provides a wealth of new material on work, love, friendship, and fulfillment, all written in her straight-shooting signature style. She admonishes a writer worried about her eccentricities for her "reductive dichotomies" when comparing herself to others, but also acknowledges that "people are allergic to confessional, outspoken women." Providing some much-needed real talk to a writer mired in depression, Havrilesky begins, "Reading your letter feels like playing a board game that you can only lose... Draw a 'Not a Chance in Hell' card: 'Advance to Lonely Life Abroad.'" She can be devastating, putting a potential bridezilla in her place ("Your dream will not come true") and verbally eviscerating a man who feels entitled to extramarital affairs ("You've been watching too much Mad Men"). She is similarly direct with a woman consistently involved with married men: "You don't have compassion for other women." True to its title, this collection touches on nearly every facet of living, and Havrilesky's wit, intelligence, and candor set her apart as perhaps the best advice columnist currently in circulation. Agent: Sarah Burnes, Gernert Company. (July) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
Kirkus Review
An advice columnist provides real examples of the problems people face.Popular New York Magazine advice columnist, author of "Ask Polly," Havrilesky (Disaster Preparedness, 2010) shares a series of letters that cut to the chase on a variety of topics. Do you need to know what to do when you contract a sexually transmitted disease? Do you want to transition from a party girl to a more responsible adult without taking all the fun out of life? Are you searching for a lifetime partner in all the wrong places? The author tackles all these heady issues and more in her no-nonsense, in-your-face, funny-yet-useful answers. Havrilesky uses examples from her own complicated life to help readers understand that they are not alone, that she too has encountered numerous problems and been able to find solutions. One common theme is the importance of not dwelling on mistakes. "You have to make peace with yourself," writes the author. "Push away the bad voices, again and again, and replace them with something kinder and more patient. Say to yourself, I'm broken right now, but I'm doing my best.' Take in the electricity, the shivers, the rough-hewn fear of your raw state, and eventually, if you welcome these feelings in enough without fighting them, you'll find inspiration and comfort there." Whether you've committed the "cardinal friendship sin" of dating an ex-boyfriend of a lifetime friend, are struggling to choose between a career as a musician and its inherent demands or the possibility of marriage and children with a woman you love, or are reaching a certain age in life and realize you no longer want to be alone, Havrilesky will tell it straight as to what you should and shouldn't do to remedy the situation. Funny, frank advice for people searching for solutions to a myriad of relationship issues. Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.
Reseña de Booklist
*Starred Review* If gentle, hand-holding self-help is what readers are looking for, beware. Havrilesky's trenchant but inspiring! brand of advice is full of such quips as You MUST recognize that life among those who don't appreciate or understand you is bullshit. For the past four years, Havrilesky (Disaster Preparedness, 2010) has been dishing out such words of wisdom on the Internet every week in her popular column, Ask Polly, selections of which are collected here. With the caring but no-holds-barred voice of a close friend who knows you all too well, Havrilesky replies to letters and offers advice on relationships, marriage, creativity, careers, parenting, and growing old. Her answers are often full of irreverent commentary and always contain some well-placed cursing, but at the heart of each is a plea to graciously accept the juddering path of mere existence, even at its worst moments, and embrace the vulnerability of the moment just as it is. There are no platitudes here; just an honest acknowledgement that though the world is unfair and people can be thoughtless, there is strength in self-acceptance, autonomy, and the pursuit of those things, however mundane they may be, that bring delight. Readers allergic to classic self-help will adore Havrilesky's empowering, grounding, and utterly sincere message delivered in a lovingly unsparing, perfectly profane tone.--Hunter, Sarah Copyright 2016 Booklist
Reseña de New York Review of Books
LEAVING LUCY PEAR, by Anna Solomon. (Penguin, $16.) Beatrice -18 years old, unmarried, Radcliffe-bound - leaves her newborn daughter in her uncle's pear grove, hoping that the thieves who often steal fruit will take the child, too. Years later, in a Massachusetts in the throes of Prohibition, Beatrice is restless, stalled and grieving, when the woman who adopted the baby begins working for Beatrice's uncle, and the families' fates are entwined yet again. AMERICAN ULYSSES: A Life of Ulysses S. Grant, by Ronald C. White. (Random House, $20.) This thorough biography celebrates the virtues and contradictions of the president and general, with a focus on his success during the Civil War. In White's telling, Grant emerges as a skilled, courageous leader with a deep faith, commitment to justice and hidden wit - a corrective to images advanced by Jim Crow-era historians and other critics. THE HIGH PLACES: Stories, by Fiona McFarlane. (Picador, $16.) The high places McFarlane invokes in this collection range from the literal (paratroopers during World War II) to the divine (a pastor questioning his faith). "The narrative impulse behind these vivid tales is understandable," our reviewer, Christopher Benfey, wrote. "McFarlane's instinct as a storyteller is to let some puzzles remain unsolved." THE BRIDGE LADIES: A Memoir, by Betsy Lerner. (Harper Perennial, $15.99.) To repair a fraught relationship with her mother, Lerner begins attending her longstanding Monday bridge club - a fixture of her social life even when the author was a child. As our reviewer, Becky Aikman, put it, the memoir "makes a case for spending time together under the rules of neutrality imposed by a game, an approach to living that refrains from over-sharing and outward complaint to concentrate on the task at hand." PALACE OF TREASON, by Jason Matthews. (Scribner, $16.99.) Dominika Egorova, the synesthetic double agent introduced in Matthews's first thriller, "Red Sparrow," has returned to Russia from the West and ascended to the top ranks of the Russian Intelligence Service - making her one of the best-placed C.I.A. moles. As she fends off Iranian assassination attempts and advances from President Vladimir V. Putin, she hides secrets of her own. HOW TO BE A PERSON IN THE WORLD: Ask Polly's Guide Through the Paradoxes of Modern Life, by Heather Havri lesky. (Anchor, $15.) The advice columnist for New York magazine grapples with such substantive issues as creative quandaries and emotional blocks. The collection, which includes both previously published and new columns, dispenses thoughtful, tough-love advice.
Library Journal Review
Havrilesky (aka Aunt Polly, nymag.com; Disaster Preparedness) collects some of her fan favorites and never-published pieces of advice that take on universal issues such as a chronically unemployed boyfriend, the ennui of being nice, and the guilt of having an affair. However, both the questions and answers the author provides seem to pander to an audience that is as much interested in the cleverness of the response as they are in the topics. Havrilesky's writing is sound, yet, as noted in the New York Times Book Review, it takes a bit of reading to get to the essence. VERDICT Perfect for advice seekers who are also looking for solutions laced with touches of snark, humor, and a willingness to "get" all sides of the subject. © Copyright 2016. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.
